It’s hard to believe, or even contemplate, but, today, I turn… 50!
Can it really be the half-century point, already?
Disco, Punk, Heavy Metal, Grunge… all come and gone. Yet, strangely, they all still seem like yesterday!
…a few weeks before I entered this world, Neil Armstrong had taken his first steps on the moon…
…Planet Of The Apes was the movie everyone was talking about…
And Star Trek was still in it’s original run!
The ability to look back 20, 30, 40 years is really pretty trippy!
So much adventure, accomplishment, disappointment, birth, death and rebirth… a full smorgasbord of highs and lows, but fuck it… I’m still going.
I have few regrets and I don’t have a wrinkle on my face… people guess I’m 35… so I must be doing something right!
With medicine and technology being what it is, I may only be halfway thru this crazy journey!
I’m just glad to have had another year to feel, create and be alive, at this time, in this crazy town… and to have made such great connections, to so many great, great people.
Lately, I’ve been thinking about what advice I would give my younger self if I could travel back thru the years and whisper in my ear.
Here’s what I would say:
20 Things I Would Tell My Younger Self
- Don’t get married. EVER! Stay single. You will be much happier.
- Enjoy the moment and don’t take anything in life too seriously. You’re not getting out of here alive.
- Be true to yourself and what you love and you will remain forever young.
- Don’t give people a second chance to screw you over, and don’t spend one second thinking about people, places or things that don’t respect you or make you happy. Drop them like a morning deuce, flush them and don’t look back.
- Trust your instincts! I know you already do, but trust them EVEN MORE! They are always right!
- Come to your own conclusions and stick by them, even if they aren’t popular. You are cutting your own path, not someone else’s.
- Don’t make the choice to either be an artist or a DJ… DO BOTH!
- Paint more! It’s what you love most (next to DJ-ing) yet do the least… so make more time for it, even if it cuts into other things.
- Make more time for friends! I know you love being by yourself and creating, but other people really dig being around you, so give them some more of your time.
- Be careful when asking questions. You may not like the answers you get and those answers could completely alter the course of your life. (Hint: they did!)
- Don’t put up with any bullshit from anyone. Again, I know you already don’t, but make sure the “no bullshit” meter is always set to ZERO! It saves a lot of wasted time and money.
- Don’t do anything you don’t want to, EVER, no matter what.
- Freedom & autonomy is ultimately what makes you happy. Protect it at all costs!
- Never trade unlimited potential for limited potential. (See also, the above rules on marriage and freedom)
- People, places and things are, often times, exactly as they first seem. Pay attention to your initial gut feeling.
- Don’t overthink things. Worry hasn’t gotten you anything in 50 years, it won’t going forward, either. Drop it. Trust that shit always works itself out. It just takes time.
- Karma is real and will deliver the fait accompli to those who have fucked with you in the most perfectly decisive and destructive way imaginable, and you will usually get to see or hear about the results.
- Never apologize. Be true to yourself and your beliefs and you’ll never have to.
- Keep it simple, fun and positive, always. Again, I know you already do, but, do it even more.
- Lastly; You have to do what you need to do when you are younger to survive, but don’t get caught up in acquiring things and placating yourself with stuff and distractions to numb the fact that you aren’t doing what you really wanted to do. Just know that as soon as you do decide to follow your dreams, and only do what you want to do, you will be very happy and you can begin to focus on building the immortal version of yourself… the one that will live on after the physical you is no longer here.
These are things I would tell any young man, today… especially the part about staying single and not getting married. Unless, of course, you want to go thru the same hell so many men go through in marriage and divorce.
Everyone thinks their relationship is different and that it won’t happen to them… until it does.
Then, you find out that men really have no power in this society, because decades ago, stupider and weaker men gave it away. The only recourse left to a sensible man is to steer clear of that black hole altogether!
Make something of yourself and be the best person you can be, instead. You will get much more pleasure and enjoyment out of life following your own pursuits than you ever will wasting your time, energy and your health on dead-end relationships.